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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Should I Try Dating Older Guys?

Posted by patrick

By Alan Bentley

As individuals, we are all different and have our own tastes, interests and motivations. It takes all types to make a world, as we are told and that is what makes living so much fun. There are no rules when it comes to companionship and we don't have to choose and select from a narrow range, thankfully. Different incomes, different social statures and ages can be attractive and some women think the dating older guys is a definite advantage.

Forming a meaningful relationship is no walk in the park, no matter who he is, where he comes from or what he expects. When it comes to dating older guys you have a whole different set of issues to comprehend. These are not necessarily stumbling blocks, but you nevertheless need to be fully understanding of implications.

If you find yourself falling for somebody who is a lot more mature than you, there is a good chance that he may have children already in his life. If he is divorced or separated, then the mother may well have custody, but you can fully imagine that he will want to keep up with his visitation rights and you must be ready to embark on a relationship with "pre-existing" conditions.

As you get older, you become a product of your upbringing and life experiences and tend to get more set in your ways as this develops. When dating older guys you will certainly find that they are somewhat less flexible than people much younger than them and you should understand that they are less likely to change as time goes by.

The age gap, if significant, can mean many cultural differences between the both of you. This may not be a big deal to you, but every now and again you will want to share a particular cultural experience or reference with him and find that he does not fully understand what you are referring to and vice versa. This can be "cute" in the beginning, but bear in mind that it may become a little frustrating as time goes by.

After the age of 30, men typically peak when it comes to sexual activities. You may not think this is an issue and may also believe that what they may lack for naturally can be more than made up for by the experience that they have gained!

Finances can be one of the biggest problems in any kind of relationship. When dating older guys they are likely to be more established financially and this can have a significant bearing on the stability of the relationship as you go forward.

If you are able to give and take and understand the differences that you may face when you were dating older guys, you may also be able to celebrate the differences between you and make them the core of your relationship as you go forward and fall more in love.

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L said...

I try not to date men who are more than 5 years older than I am. I think passed 5 years it can start to become complicated, especially in younger years. Is this harder to avoid when you start to go on webdates? Do people usually tell their age in their profile, and if they don't when do they let you know? Do they lie?

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