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Sunday, November 22, 2009

Can You Date More Than One Man?

Posted by patrick

By Alan Bentley

You may feel that you are just wasting your time when you go out on those dates, as they invariably seem to lead nowhere and you end up spending a lot of your time and months of your life with no real results. Couldn't you consolidate all this time more effectively and try and date more than one man at a time? This is surely going to give you better odds of success, right?

Be careful if you decide to date more than one man, especially if you think that you are just hedging your bets. At the end of the day you need to be very realistic about what you are doing and fair to all parties involved. If you don't stick to some rules and directions then it could all turn into a real mess.

You may very well be using your time more efficiently, but if you really are going to date more than one guy you need to ask some very hard questions of yourself. Other people will undoubtedly criticize you and is your skin thick enough to be able to cope with this unconventional position?

Be selective about your suitors. If you make the decision to date more than one man you are going to have to allocate a lot of your spare time. Are both guys really candidates for the long-term? If you feel that they have equal merit, then you may go ahead.

Don't jump into bed with each guy! This is not the time for intimate relationships and the process you're going through is merely a process of selection. Anything else is very unfair.

Because you're likely to run into people who you know, try and avoid going to the same venues with each guy. To a certain extent you are going to have to have different worlds, or be prepared for some awkward encounters.

Before you begin to date more than one man, let each of them know what is going on. Honesty is definitely the best policy here and you want to be sure that they are fully accepting of the situation. If they find out the hard way there will be fireworks for sure.

Don't try and create a different personality when you date more than one man. You need to be yourself across the board, as there may be a tendency to try and manipulate a certain type of behavior because you think that particular gentleman likes you that way. If you're not careful, you will create so much confusion in your mind you will end up with nobody!

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