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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Tips For Being Successful In Life

Posted by patrick

By Gordon Peterson

Its really not enough today, to be successful. You want to be brilliant. At least this is probably what Michael Heppell, author of How to Be Brilliant (2003) would say. One of his favorite sayings has got to be its no longer good enough to be good. Here's his logic: If you do a good job, you only ever get poor results, because if you do a poor job you actually get no results. Its a bit of a reality check in some ways, along the lines of don't overestimate the end result. However you understand his logic, the message is actually brilliant. Why settle for anything less? Its like his motto - You've got to step up continuously.

1: Start by Setting yourself a 90-day Goal.

Lets say you're starting a new job, decide on what skills you to acquire over the next 3 months. Maybe you decide its important to master the new database, or maybe you want to be able to set appointments in the Outlook Calendar. The power behind setting a 90-day goal is that you'll likely see progress because its a short-time frame. If you set the goal too far off in the future, its easy to not stay focused.

You want your goal to be personal, positive and present. Lets take for a minute a non-professional goal of losing weight. Its much more enticing to say I want a svelte body than to say I want to stop eating fries. And if you close your eyes and can see yourself fitting the jeans you like to wear, you're more likely to stay focused on your goal?

2: Pay Attention to your Self-Talk. Become a NLPer.

Ask yourself frequently Is this the most empowering message that I can give myself to help me get from A to B?. Its the message we keep repeating to ourselves that we end up believing. So this means if I keep telling myself that I cant do something, then Ill end up believing this message. Usually, if you notice that you're not as motivated as you could be, this is a good sign that you want to check your thought patterns.

This is the basis of Neuro-linguistic Programming or NLP. NLP is the 'science of excellence' and modeling of success. Neuro meaning brain. Linguistic meaning language. And programming meaning patterns. It was created by Bandler and Grinder (a linguist), in the 1970s as a way of overcoming learned limitations. NLP basically says input empowering language into your brain and you'll be empowered to achieve what you want.

3: Build on Your Strengths.

I just love the notion of Strength-building. It matches my own belief that we all have a particular mission to accomplish on this planet, a gift from God, to create with. The idea is to embrace what you do naturally well, and build on that. You will excel by maximizing your strengths not by fixing your weaknesses.

Marcus Buckingham & Donald O. Clifton , authors of Now, Discover Your Strengths (2001), are the forces behind the Strength Revolution. They define strength as a persons unique ability to perform which feels natural, is recurring and compels them. To find a strength, start by noticing your positive obsessions, what you do repeatedly, and repeatedly well, that's a positive.

Start by focusing on a goal, making your self-talk as empowering as possible, and building on what you do already well. Enjoy your success. See you at the top!

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