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Saturday, July 11, 2009

How To Know If It's Time To End A Relationship

Posted by patrick

By Ricardo d Argence

There are several struggles that come along with ending a relationship, but you have to understand how to do it properly. You could take several different avenues, but the trick is to have as much knowledge as possible on the subject. This way you're one step ahead of your companion and can come to terms with the ultimate decision.

Some relationships truly do need to end. If your partner is abusing you, you need to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. If you're on other side, and you're having trouble controlling your temper, then you're obligated to break up with the other person for both of your sakes.

However, these are obvious reasons and not something you should consider in other situations. For instance, there may come a time when you just don't want the same things out of the relationship. Maybe one of you wants marriage and the other doesn't. Maybe someone's cheating, but whatever the case may be, these two scenarios are good reasons.

Keep in mind that when you do end a relationship, a big fight shouldn't follow. Some couples feel it's the only way to rid you of the other, but it's not healthy for either party. If you have a clear head, ending the relationship will be much easier.

If you don't do it the right way, neither one of you will be able to move on. So follow these guidelines and it will help the process:

Don't play games, nobody likes to break up with someone. That's normal, but there's a temptation to try and make the other person do the dirty work in ending a relationship. Mostly subconsciously, we pick fights and play games to try and antagonize the other person into breaking up with us.

Don't fall for this trick. Instead of taking this route, try being directed, honest, and proactive. If you just treat the other person with respect, you'll find that the storyline that is told to relatives and friends will be much calmer and collective.

Then of course you definitely don't want to end a relationship through an email, text message, or phone call. Even though it may be easy for you, your partner will have all kinds of questions. Plus, when they spread the word about what you did, your reputation will fall flat on its face.

What you'll find is it's important to be about closure. Obviously sending a text won't do the trick, so make sure you take the time to make a clean break. Do it somewhere secluded where you can't be interrupted and your personal thoughts won't be overheard by others.

Above all else, just be honest. Tell them how you feel and what's been going on with you lately. If you come up with some ridiculous story, they'll just read right through you and think you're a coward. Sure they probably don't want to hear it, but it's much better than the alternative.

You may not think these tips are very helpful, but you will be surprised at how much of a difference they'll make. The goal is to make everything go as smooth as possible. If you can do this then you'll be able to end the relationship the right way.

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