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Monday, July 20, 2009

Getting An Ex Back - When You Dumped

Posted by patrick

By Antwan Sims

Getting an ex back is hard if you were the one being dumped. But think how you would feel if you were the person who did the dumping? That is the position that Aimee found herself in and she had to go about getting an ex back.

Aimee's so called buddy Renee told her that her hubby Jaime had been sleeping with another lady. Without confirming the information or even asking Jaime about it, Aimee confronted Jaime and charged him of having an affair. This took Jaime by complete surprise because he had no idea that the rumor was circulating, and he didn't do a good job of protecting himself. Aimee unceremoniously dumped him.

A few days later, Aimee found out that Renee had been lying for her own jealous, petty reasons. Now Aimee was in a quandary. Getting an ex back was necessary to her, but she also wanted to save face. Aimee called up Jaime and explained what had happened. But Jaime was in no mood to take her back. Aimee had hurt him by not trusting him and not even speaking things over with him.Getting an ex back took all of Aimee's wiles.

First of all, Aimee wrote Jaime a long letter of apology. She took responsibility for what occurred and promised that it would never happen again. She reminded Jaime that they had a long record together and they had shared some beautiful times. She revealed that she didn't want to throw all of that away. She told him that the explanation why she acted the way she did was because she loved him and couldn't stand the though of his being with another woman. The thought of losing him forever was painful.

After she had mailed the letter, she did not trouble him with consistent texts or phone calls. She figured that getting an ex back after a situation like this one required that she give Jaime his space.

When she did run into Jaime, she was as nice as she could be. She worked positive memories into the conversation casually. She didn't apologize any farther though . She had told him both in person and in writing that she was sorry and let it go at that.

One day, Aimee got tickets for Jaime's fave band which was in town for one concert only. She asked Jaime to go with her "just as friends." In this manner, she opened the door to a future relationship without crowding him.

Getting an ex back after you have behaved badly and dumped him is tricky. Not only do you have the embarrassment of having to apologize, but you almost have to start from the start again on the relationship. Reconstructing the trust is a key component in this period.

Jaime and Aimee did eventually get back together. Jaime came to see that Aimee's outburst was the act of an envious lady who awfully loved him. He saw it as a mistake that they could both grow from. Their relationship became stronger than ever. Aimee took the correct tack to getting an ex back.

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