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Sunday, July 5, 2009

Help! How To Save A Marriage

Posted by patrick

By Sabrina Summerfield

Marriage is a huge step that people take in their lives. Many times they have hard times and need help finding ways of how to save a marriage. Let's look into some of the ways that people have found that helped them rebuild their troubled marriages.

Maintain the lines of communication between the two of you. Talking is one of the most important things in a relationship. Without open communication the troubles could become even more blown out of proportion than they already are which will only make things even more difficult to rectify.

When talking with your other half make sure that you are really listening to what they are saying to you. Remember the way that you talked about things in the early days of the relationship and how it brought you closer together. Don't hurt them further by blowing them off and ignoring them. Something may seem small to you but may mean tons to the other party!

Some people make pros and cons list to help them see the good points and the bad points. Many people find it easier to identify with things when they are in black and white. Be as honest as you can make the lists as the only one that will get hurt if you are not is YOU!!! Compare the lists when they are finished and see what exactly has changed within the marriage. Identifying the things on the list that you can go about fixing on your own is a huge step that you can take. Remember that you both have issues and the marriage having problems is not just one partner's fault!

Once the things on the list have been identified, you can then figure out ways that you can change these things. Reminiscing about the past can sometimes help make things seem a bit clearer for people that do this. By trying to change the things that are within your power alone you are showing your partner how much you really care about the marriage.

Always remember that we are human and need love and support from others to survive. The situation may seem to be hopeless, but that all depends on you and whether you are willing to make sacrifices and changes to save your marriage. Making a few changes may mean a lot to your partner and in return may give you a pleasant surprise. If you reach out for it, it can be yours!

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