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Friday, July 31, 2009

Ease the Pain of Relationship Trouble

Posted by patrick

By Lynn Huber

Every couple in the world wants to feel secure, happy and comfortable with their relationship. If you think, you have reached this particular stage, then good for you. It is relative. It actually depends on how you see happiness, comfort and stability of a relationship to be. The depth and meaning of every person's description of happiness and comfort is inflated when the relationship goes through a series of trials and still comes out victorious. You get happy when you are in love, you become even happier when after all the heartache and pain, you still end up in each other's arms.

None of us can get past the fact that we all have relationship troubles. It's all part of learning about each other. Too-good-to-be-true kind of relationships will still encounter difficulties no matter what. There is no marriage nor a relationship made in heaven. Assuming trouble and dealing with it at a completely different perspective is the key to a stronger and more productive relationship.

Trouble can either make or break us. However, most couples deal with trouble in a way that can break both of them. Do you want to end up still troubled and disillusioned after having some kind or level of trouble? On the other hand, do you want to learn from the trouble, get better and grow in order to avoid any like trouble-making situations?

One of the most frustrating tasks in a relationship is how to fix a relationship in trouble. Relationship problems come at varying degrees. Whether your partner has cheated you various times over or perhaps you have been too selfish in looking to your needs than your mate's needs, one thing remains the same - there is trouble and you need to fix it straightaway before the problem explodes and leaves you into bits and pieces.

Accepting and Defense

Much of the time, couples fail to accept the problem. They try to cover-up and pretend that nothing is wrong. The minute you sense that there is trouble coming your way deal with it right away. You need to communicate and talk about what you think and feel. Perhaps, you will see that after all, you only lack communication that is why there is trouble. Remember, communication is the blood that flows in a relationship. Without it, there is no mutual growth.

Pridefulness and Humility

If you remain to insist that you are right without even hearing his/her side, you are tailing after the wind. The main check on how to fix trouble in a relationship is pride, resulting to resistance and conflict.

Opposition and Submission

The plan to fix relationship trouble works well when both partners learn to accept and submit as well as forgive and forget. Of course, it is easier said than done but the more you resist,the more you fall and get into more trouble.

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