Get Ex Back After Being Too Needy

By Johnnie S Laney

So were you too needy in your relationship? Did you demand all their attention, try to make your mate spend all their time with you, ask for their advice and opinion on everything? Did you show up as too helpless and weak?

When you do these kinds of things, you will most likely get tossed out by your mate. Your ex quickly begins to understand that you aren't the one for them, you are way too much work!

If this has happened to you dont worry too much. You certainly arent alone. While it happens to women much more than men, it is still a common occurrence. If nothing else take it as a learning experience on creating healthy boundaries.

Now that you have hopefully learned something from getting the boot, you want to get your ex back. Is it possible to get back together with your ex lover if they dumped you for being too needy?

It won't necessarily be easy, but it can most certainly be done. The big first step is to recognize that you messed up by being too needy and clingy and weak. Men like to solve some problems for their women, but they want you to be independent and capable rather than an emotional mess. Too much clingy mess creates relationship killing problems.

So ask yourself, have you changed? Can you be more independent and less clingy? If you aren't sure, go get some coaching. There's no shame in it, and it isn't that hard to learn to develop healthier boundaries in your love life.

The next big step is to let your ex know that you have changed. This, of course, is where it gets tricky. You can do this in several ways. One direct method is to call them and tell them what you've learned about healthy boundaries. Convince them that you won't need to call them ten times a day while they are at work. If they understand that you have learned from the experience, they can begin to want you back.

Another method to convince them you've changed is to use the weekly chat technique. Here you call them every week or so to "catch up." During these calls, you share stores form your life about ways you are solving your own problems and being more independent. This can cause them to gain a new respect for you, and create an opening to start dating again after several weeks of these kinds of calls.

These are a few ways to begin to change your ex's mind about you after they dumped you for being too needy. There's more to it, but just these few steps can be a powerful start to get the love back in your life.

About the Author:

You can learn Immediate Reconnect Methods to get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back And Repair Your Relationship. John Laney teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School here at Relationship Help Secrets.