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Thursday, February 12, 2009

Lost Love How To Win It Back

Posted by patrick

By Davey Pitters

If you recently went through a rough breakup, you may be still wondering what caused it. Breakups can happen because of a million different reasons, although they're never easy to stomach no matter what the reason was. It's going to be tough if you want to win back lost love.

You'll need to know that most times, your ex doesn't particularly hate you. It's more likely that they don't want to go through the same reason that caused the breakup ever again. So getting your ex back isn't really a matter of making your ex like you again " it's more about convincing them that you'll never make the same mistake again.

Weigh Up The First Steps

In other words, you'll need to find out what exactly caused the breakup. Did you make a stupid mistake? Did you say something that came off the wrong way? Or did your ex finally give up trying to get rid of a bad habit of yours? You'll really need to know what the breakup's underlying cause was, otherwise you won't know precisely what to fix. But when you do know the reason, it'll be your job to fix it and make sure it never crops up again.

Of course, it's not easy. That's why if you're not willing to change the very things that caused the breakup, whether it was a mistake, a bad habit, or whatever it was, then you might just be wasting your time trying to get your ex back. After all, even if you did manage to win back lost love, can you give any guarantees that the original causes for the breakup won't happen again?

Problems and Solutions

But if you think that you're willing and able to get your act together, then by all means take the first step. When you know what caused the breakup, take steps to fix it. For instance, if you had a bad temper, you might want to remind yourself to stay calm whenever something ticks you off. You may even benefit from an anger management course or, better yet, some spiritual pursuit that'll make you see just how petty many things are compared to the greater scheme of things. There are many solutions to a single problem, so make sure you don't give up when you fail the first time around.

It's important not to hound your ex while you're trying to improve yourself. Your ex shouldn't get the wrong idea that you're trying to impress them by making an effort to change. If you want to win back lost love, the idea is to make them discover on their own that you've become a better person. It's a lot more impressive that way, since actions speak much louder than words in this situation.

Remember, though, that self-improvement shouldn't be treated as a one-time offer. It's something you'll need to cultivate for the rest of your life. Believe me when I say that your ex will love you for it down the line. So go ahead, get yourself fixed up, and win back lost love.

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