Finding the YES in NO
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One of the most difficult words to handle is NO, especially when we desperately desire something, or feel it is necessary for our success and happiness. According to sales research, NO is the number one cause of 'fear of rejection' complex that causes so many people to get out of business!
As we looked back over our years as consultants, we remember that NO was a tough word for us to hear when we created amazing proposals, only to find someone else was selected to do the job. But we discovered a fascinating way to hear the YES in NO.
We began saying "Thanks for saying no!" The moment we heard that we weren't selected to give the opening keynote, for example, we would immediately follow up with a little note, thanking the potential client for giving us the opportunity to be considered ~ and our affirmations for them having a great conference.
We followed this up with offering our services for future events, and also let the meeting planer know that, should something occur at the last minute where they found they needed a speaker, to feel free to contact us. Then we topped it off by including a copy of one of our books as our "Thanks for saying no" gift.
Incredibly, we discovered that quite often we were contacted immediately to plan for next year's conference! And we can pinpoint three specific instances where things went awry with the selected speaker, and we got the call to replace them! We discovered how to find the YES in NO by looking at a more long-term response.
How often do you run into obstacles that seem to wave a big red "NO" in your face? It seems so easy to just give in, and say, "Forget it!" But in Mark 10:27, Jesus makes a remarkable statement: "With God, all things are possible."
What is HE talking about? It tends to produce all kinds of debates, like "Yeah, possible, but how probable?" Or "Sounds good on paper, but it won't work in the real world!"
When we take a metaphysical approach to what this verse is really talking about, we get a whole different view. It says that as we make that connection with the Divine nature of who we are, our God center, we are receptive to the Divine Flow of every thing we ever need. But until we make that connection, our human self sees the appearance of obstacles, of "NOs."
Here are three keys to discovering the YES in every NO you seem to encounter:
* Spend dedicated time in the Silence, strengthening your connection with Spirit.
* Counter every appearance of NO with a big "Thank You for saying no!" Then look for ways to send positive energy to the situation or people.
* Recognize that there is no being out there in the sky saying NO. We have the power to Divinely order our experience, and create the life we choose. Do not let the appearance of NO have power in your life!
As we looked back over our years as consultants, we remember that NO was a tough word for us to hear when we created amazing proposals, only to find someone else was selected to do the job. But we discovered a fascinating way to hear the YES in NO.
We began saying "Thanks for saying no!" The moment we heard that we weren't selected to give the opening keynote, for example, we would immediately follow up with a little note, thanking the potential client for giving us the opportunity to be considered ~ and our affirmations for them having a great conference.
We followed this up with offering our services for future events, and also let the meeting planer know that, should something occur at the last minute where they found they needed a speaker, to feel free to contact us. Then we topped it off by including a copy of one of our books as our "Thanks for saying no" gift.
Incredibly, we discovered that quite often we were contacted immediately to plan for next year's conference! And we can pinpoint three specific instances where things went awry with the selected speaker, and we got the call to replace them! We discovered how to find the YES in NO by looking at a more long-term response.
How often do you run into obstacles that seem to wave a big red "NO" in your face? It seems so easy to just give in, and say, "Forget it!" But in Mark 10:27, Jesus makes a remarkable statement: "With God, all things are possible."
What is HE talking about? It tends to produce all kinds of debates, like "Yeah, possible, but how probable?" Or "Sounds good on paper, but it won't work in the real world!"
When we take a metaphysical approach to what this verse is really talking about, we get a whole different view. It says that as we make that connection with the Divine nature of who we are, our God center, we are receptive to the Divine Flow of every thing we ever need. But until we make that connection, our human self sees the appearance of obstacles, of "NOs."
Here are three keys to discovering the YES in every NO you seem to encounter:
* Spend dedicated time in the Silence, strengthening your connection with Spirit.
* Counter every appearance of NO with a big "Thank You for saying no!" Then look for ways to send positive energy to the situation or people.
* Recognize that there is no being out there in the sky saying NO. We have the power to Divinely order our experience, and create the life we choose. Do not let the appearance of NO have power in your life!
About the Author:
Drs. Bil & Cher Holton are Spiritual Leaders at Unity Spiritual Life Center in Durham, NC, where they practice positive, practical, progressive Christianity. Visit their website at Unity Spiritual Life Center and sign up to receive a complimentary 4-week e-course.
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