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Saturday, May 23, 2009

Understanding Marriage Relationships

Posted by patrick

By Alex Smoke

Most men and women are different when they tend to approach a problem. They handle problems from completely different angles. Many people reach a point in their relationship when they realize they have drifted apart from their spouse. Often women will talk about the problem to the other and tend to talk lengthily about their problems.

The most important thing to do is to understand how different woman and man are in order to understand the relationship between a wife and husband. Because we are different mentally and emotionally as we are different in the outer physical appearance.

If you are wondering can I save my marriage think about how open communication is between you and your spouse. Do you take time each and every day to listen to one another? Many couples who have been married for sometime don't. It is easy to overlook the importance of staying connected with your spouse by sharing your feelings, experiences and thoughts. So if you have stopped talking, now is the time to start again. For example, you can cook dinner together so you have a chance to catch up then. Then maybe a few moments before you fall asleep can be your time to talk. You need to make communication a priority in your relationship.

The marriage relationship is not an easy and simple relationship. Most marriages fail because the husband and wife don't have the knowledge to keep their relationship going. If one of you had understood the dynamics of the relationship, the marriage can be healthier and stronger. But if we had that combination of a husband and wife who understand the relationships, the chances are this marriage will have the best luck to grow as a very good marriage.

It is easy for two people living together, especially those raising child, to start to feel resentment towards the other person. This can happen if one spouse just becomes primarily responsible for tending to the needs of the child. It's typical of a marriage that has been touched by infidelity. So if a couple allows resentment to enter their marriage, it is hard to remain focused and positive on the marriage growing. Sit down with your husband/wife and work through any issue that may be causing resentment for either of you. Sometimes the other partner has no idea that their spouse is feeling very negative towards them. So you need to clear the table of those negative emotions before you can rebuild your relationship.

Sometimes, when woman talk about problems, she don't want to find solutions or answers, she want sympathy and she want someone to listen to their opinions and thoughts. But man are more direct, when he talk about something he want an answer. A woman usually talks about something just to get rid of a burden, other women usually offer support and advice. They do not try to give solutions, they simply join in the conversation. A men is more direct and simple, they offers a solutions and tells the women to take their advice, thinking they're being very helpful and supportive. The woman will feel that he isn't listening and he wants to put an end to the conversation.

Understanding those things can help you stop before you do something that might hurt your relationship. Also you can think about what your spouse needs from you rather than giving them what you think they need and want. Your marriage relationship will be happier because of it.

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