Prove You can Change and Get Your Ex Back
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The first step to winning over an ex is to figure out why they dumped you in the first place. A lot of the time it was because your ex couldn't (or didn't want to) put up with certain things you did anymore.
If this sounds like your own breakup, then you have to accept it and move on. You'll have to single out and eliminate those behaviors, promising never to start them again. Words mean little to former significant others, they need to see the "I've changed" in your actions.
First of all, your ex is not going to believe you. Nobody makes significant changes very quickly, they take time. If you're going to get your ex to thinking about making a second go of it, you've got to convince him or her that you really have changed for good.
You need to convince your ex that you really are putting in the work it takes to make yourself better. For instance, reading books, researching for help online, taking classes or even therapy.
The only way you can do this is if you do are in fact making a genuine effort to change. If you really want a second chance with your ex you will be more than willing to do this.
Another thing, should you be able to obtain an additional oppotunity via the simple appearance of chang,e it won't be sufficient to hold it together. You ex will turn away from you again if the old problems come up again- and normally the problems do come back.
They will feel tricked, betrayed and foolish. Again, I will be saying, "I want my ex back." Of course you already had one opportunity, and you screwed it up royally.
There is a third reason, over and above getting a second chance with your ex, to make a genuine change: for your own sake.
The problems with your ex are rooted in emotions and behaviors that probably affect other parts of your life. For example, the feeling of being jealous has origins in feelings of poor self-esteem as well as insecurity, resulting, not so obviously, in trouble on your job or in your relations with friends and family.
By putting your own emotional needs first, you will end being a healthier and happier person, which will help you attract the right kind of person, someone who is far more likely to get a second chance with their ex, and get them back for keeps.
Your ex will appreciate your efforts all the more if he realizes that you truly want to change for yourself, not just for him.
If this sounds like your own breakup, then you have to accept it and move on. You'll have to single out and eliminate those behaviors, promising never to start them again. Words mean little to former significant others, they need to see the "I've changed" in your actions.
First of all, your ex is not going to believe you. Nobody makes significant changes very quickly, they take time. If you're going to get your ex to thinking about making a second go of it, you've got to convince him or her that you really have changed for good.
You need to convince your ex that you really are putting in the work it takes to make yourself better. For instance, reading books, researching for help online, taking classes or even therapy.
The only way you can do this is if you do are in fact making a genuine effort to change. If you really want a second chance with your ex you will be more than willing to do this.
Another thing, should you be able to obtain an additional oppotunity via the simple appearance of chang,e it won't be sufficient to hold it together. You ex will turn away from you again if the old problems come up again- and normally the problems do come back.
They will feel tricked, betrayed and foolish. Again, I will be saying, "I want my ex back." Of course you already had one opportunity, and you screwed it up royally.
There is a third reason, over and above getting a second chance with your ex, to make a genuine change: for your own sake.
The problems with your ex are rooted in emotions and behaviors that probably affect other parts of your life. For example, the feeling of being jealous has origins in feelings of poor self-esteem as well as insecurity, resulting, not so obviously, in trouble on your job or in your relations with friends and family.
By putting your own emotional needs first, you will end being a healthier and happier person, which will help you attract the right kind of person, someone who is far more likely to get a second chance with their ex, and get them back for keeps.
Your ex will appreciate your efforts all the more if he realizes that you truly want to change for yourself, not just for him.
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So there you have it. Three powerful steps to get your ex back. Recover the magic of that moments with the one you love.
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