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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

You Might Be Hurting Your Chances Of Getting Back With Ex

Posted by patrick

By Chelsey Sparks

Often when a breakup occurs we can easily hurt our chances of getting back with ex by the things we say and do. Following a breakup, emotional turmoil and devastation can easily set in.

At times we are just acting on raw emotions. When raw emotions take over, we can easily say and do things that can actually hurt our chances of getting back with ex.

Do you find yourself having problems dealing with a breakup and all you think about is getting back together with ex? Dont let yourself make the following common mistakes. Consequences to these mistakes can often hurt your chances of getting back with ex.

* Don't be spying. The heart has a natural tendency to want to know what your ex is up to after a breakup. After all, a lot of time, bonding and love went into the relationship you and your ex shared.

Sometimes we get the feeling that if we find out what our ex is doing this can help relieve the pain and turmoil we have been experiencing since the breakup. This is not the case; in fact the opposite is more likely to happen. You may find this can add to your painful emotions.

* Don't let yourself mope. After a breakup some people fall into a continual state of moping. They avoid anything that might bring them pleasure, such as going out with friends. Calling into work sick and maintaining a totally unkempt appearance become routine for them. It is then that feelings of depression can easily take its toll.

No matter if you are a man or women, moping is not an attractive or desirable behavior. It is only natural for people to want to be around those who project a wholesome, happy and healthy lifestyle. When you appear unattractive or undesirable to your ex, this can hurt your chances of getting back with ex.

It should be noted that theyre a few people who will be attracted to moping. These people are psychological predators that should absolutely be avoided.

* Don't antagonize your ex with phoning. Constantly phoning your ex is one of the worse things you can do to antagonize your ex. The same thing can be said for emailing and text messaging your ex. You will only come out looking desperate when you do this. Your chances of getting back with ex can be hurt by engaging in this behavior.

When you are in communication overload with an ex, it becomes easy for your ex to start feeling harassed. This will only make you appear unattractive to your ex.

If you avoid making these common mistakes this will help put you on the right course to overcoming relationship breakup and jump-start your chances of getting back with ex.

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