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Wednesday, June 3, 2009

How to Handle a Crisis in Your Marriage

Posted by patrick

By Ricardo d Argence

A marriage in crisis is difficult to handle as it seems that what was once full of life is now suffering and on the brink of dying. When you are dating, new love seems to have a life of it's own. Everything being so new feels like a new life has begun has the two of you have started a new life together.

Do you remember that moment you exchanged marriage vows, for better or for worsetill death do us part? Everything seemed to make sense and fall right into place. When the road is tough to hoe, though, and your marriage is clinging on by a thread, it seems like the new love you found to be exhilarating and fresh is starting to grow old. The both of you can see that your marriage is dying. If you both have the desire to save your dying marriage, then CPR may be needed.

Get Counseling: If you are serious about saving your marriage in crisis, then you may want to think about going to a marriage counselor. This tool is not utilized by many people. If you are seeking a resolution to your problems and want to find little ways to help the two of you grow closer then you should definitely think about marriage counseling. You will be able to understand your partner better and find ways to show your affection towards your spouse.

Marriage counseling will also help you find better ways to express yourself in such a way that you don't come across as attacking each other

One of you may be going through some serious issues that is putting your marriage at risk. If this happens to be you, then it may be better to get therapy on your own. This may be a hard pill to swallow since your pride may get in the way. Yet, if you seriously want to save your marriage that is in crisis, you will do whatever it takes to rectify bad situations that are stumbling blocks to your marriage. Just be sure to seek out a reputable marriage counselor.

Get Perspective: For a marriage that is headed for deep trouble, a very important point that must be reckoned with is to get some perspective on just what is happening. A marriage counselor will be able to help you in this area because he or she will help you to get a new insight about situations and things.

From where you are standing things may look pretty clear. However, once you are able to see from another angle, things that you couldn't understand before may make a lot of sense. Getting perspectives from other angles and vantage points will really be helpful in helping you fully understand what is happening so that you can then save the marriage in crisis.

Resolution: Now that you have been able to get a better perspective on the crisis you are faced with concerning your marriage and are getting some counseling, you will have a great variety of ideas and information to make use of. These things will aid in repairing the damage that is done IF you are able and willing to act on it. To put it one way: Knowing is half the battle. However, no battle that was half fought was ever won.

If you see a drowning person and you not only know how to swim but know CPR and are trained in first aid, you may know everything you need to know to help save that person's life. Will that knowledge save them? Only if it is acted upon.

The same thing is true with your marriage. It not only takes you acting upon it and getting issues resolved that were killing your marriage. You can only save a marriage in crisis by acting in order to make things better.

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